Conscious & Intentional Communication

What is conscious communication?

There are many different possible answers to this question and many different ways to define conscious communication. Conscious is a very broad term and can mean many things. What it means for us to be conscious, aware of the words we are saying as well as our body language and the tone of our voice – the way we are speaking and what we are saying. Aware of the What and the How, but also the Why – why are we communicating?

What is our intention when we communicate?

What is the purpose of our communication?

What is the energy of our communication → what emotion (energy in motion) is behind this flow of words and gives our expression the particular energy that it contains?

And, continuing with energy and flow, what is the focus or direction of this energy of our communication:

Who is it for?

Who or what does it serve and in what way?

In what direction does the communication go (who is the sender and who is the receiver)?

And when we are aware of the intention, the purpose, the energy (emotion), and the focus or direction, we can explore the deeper what and how of our communication:

What are we really saying or communicating? And what are we withholding?

What are we truly wishing or trying to communication? And do the words do justice to this underlying truth?

And the deeper how: are we communicating maturely? Authentically? Non-violently?

And very importantly: are we communicating consentually ( with consent)?

Is there consent from both or all parties involved in the communication for this communication: for the what, the how, the when, and the why?

Do all the people involved have the (mental, emotional or energetic) space for it? Do they continue to have space throughout the conversation or communication?

The consent, the level of space that we have and can or wish to hold can change and it is important to check in with oneself and each other on an ongoing basis throughout.

Is there consent for the purpose (for instance if it regards small talk with the purpose of filling a void or a silence)? Is there consent for the manner (for instance if we simply blurt out something to get it off our chest)?